Let me just say this..... I stayed home with my son for the first 10 months of his life. Every single day, I spend the entire day doing NOTHING but taking care of him. I cooked, cleaned, folded laundry, changed diapers, watch a million and one episodes of Bunny Town and I love every minute of it.
Now, that being said, I am NOT the stay at home mom type. I love to work. Call me crazy, whatever!
I like the feeling of being independently financially secure. Women are too reliant on men. I hate it. I mean, if your husband has a good job and you two have discussed you staying home to be the primary childcare provider, that's all fine and dandy. But if your husband is working his ass off and having to tack on some overtime to make ends meet while you sit at home on your ass all day, that's only going to cause more problems in the long run. Helping out isn't that hard. Get a part-time job. Find someone to keep your child in their home OR in your home! People do this ALL THE TIME.
You need balance. You need ADULT time. For me, work is my adult time. I don't go out partying or take time away from my son when I have him. I choose to be with him when I am supposed to be with him. That simple.
I have all respect for mothers in general (and fathers). Being a parent is HARD WORK. In a two-parent household, mothers just seem to do more. In a single parent household, the parent that has the child does all of the work. In my case, I do the work when I have him and his dad does the work when he has him. We work together on everything. I am blessed.
Now, at the end of 2012, I made the decision to go back to school. I quit my job, signed up for school, and found a job as a waitress. I WORK MY ASS OFF. I stay tired. BUT I have a 4.0 and I manage just fine. AND I AM DONE in NOVEMBER of this year.
I am proud of myself.
I am here to tell you that if you have a dream or a goal, it can be accomplished. I am also here to tell you that it WILL NOT BE EASY. It will require dedication and LOTS of coffee.
I hope that by writing this blog, I can encourage just ONE person to make a change. Do what you want. You get one life.